A child's right to participate in matters affecting them is denied on the basis of their age
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The Situation
What They Said
“Children must be seen and not heard. This is an adult discussion and you have no place in it.”
This phrase is used by adults — parents, teachers, community leaders — to exclude children from discussions about decisions that directly affect them, using a cultural proverb to reinforce their exclusion.
The Fallacy
Appeal to Tradition / Ad Hominem (Circumstantial)
This argument invokes a cultural proverb as though it has the force of law or moral truth, and dismisses the child's right to speak based on a circumstantial attribute — their age. The logical flaw is that the age of a person does not automatically invalidate their perspective on matters directly concerning their own life. The Children's Act specifically recognises that children of sufficient maturity have a legal right to participate in matters affecting them.
What the Law Says
Your Legal Foundation
Children's Act 38 of 2005
Section 10 — Child's Right to Participate in Matters Concerning the Child
“Every child that is of sufficient maturity to participate in any matter concerning that child has the right to participate in an appropriate way and views expressed by the child must be given due consideration.”
A child of sufficient maturity has a legally protected right to participate in matters that concern them — this right cannot be overridden by a cultural proverb or an adult's preference for silence.
Constitution of the Republic of South Africa, 1996
Section 28(2) — Children's Rights — Best Interests
“A child's best interests are of paramount importance in every matter concerning the child.”
Decisions that affect a child made without hearing from the child may not be in that child's best interests — the best interests standard requires meaningful engagement with the child.
What Scripture Says
God's Word on This
Mark 10:14 (NET)
“But when Jesus saw this, he was indignant and said to them, 'Let the little children come to me and do not try to stop them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.'”
Jesus actively overruled the disciples who excluded children from his presence — he affirmed children's access and belonging rather than demanding their absence and silence.
Luke 2:46 (NET)
“After three days they found him in the temple courts, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions.”
Jesus at age twelve was in the temple not only listening but asking questions and engaging in dialogue — Scripture presents this as a sign of wisdom, not disrespect.
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