A child's right to participate in matters affecting them is denied on the basis of their age
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The Situation
What They Said
“Children must be seen and not heard. This is an adult discussion and you have no place in it.”
This phrase is used by adults — parents, teachers, community leaders — to exclude children from discussions about decisions that directly affect them, using a cultural proverb to reinforce their exclusion.
The Fallacy
Appeal to Tradition / Ad Hominem (Circumstantial)
This argument invokes a cultural proverb as though it has the force of law or moral truth, and dismisses the child's right to speak based on a circumstantial attribute — their age. The logical flaw is that the age of a person does not automatically invalidate their perspective on matters directly concerning their own life. In many legal systems, children of sufficient maturity have a recognized right to participate in matters affecting them.
What the Law Says
Your Legal Foundation
Estatuto da Criança e do Adolescente
ECA, art. 16 — Child's right to opinion
“Article 16. The right to liberty includes the following aspects: ... II - opinion and expression; ... V - participate in family and community life without discrimination;”
The phrase excludes children from discussions that affect them, violating their right to opinion and expression and to participate in family and community life without discrimination.
What Scripture Says
God's Word on This
Mark 10:14 (NET)
“But when Jesus saw this, he was indignant and said to them, 'Let the little children come to me and do not try to stop them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.'”
Jesus actively overruled the disciples who excluded children from his presence — he affirmed children's access and belonging rather than demanding their absence and silence.
Luke 2:46 (NET)
“After three days they found him in the temple courts, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions.”
Jesus at age twelve was in the temple not only listening but asking questions and engaging in dialogue — Scripture presents this as a sign of wisdom, not disrespect.
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You Know the Law — But Do You Know What to Say?
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