Scripture & Rights
What Does God Say About Domestic Violence?
God's Word is clear: he hates violence, he protects the oppressed, and he commands those with power to protect those without it. Here is what Scripture says about domestic violence.
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Domestic violence exists in every culture, class, and religion — including in Christian homes. Survivors often ask whether God sees their suffering, whether He condones it, and whether they have biblical permission to leave. Scripture answers all three questions clearly. God opposes violence, sees every act of it, and provides for the protection of the vulnerable.
What Scripture Says
Key Bible Verses
Psalm 11:5 (NIV)
“The LORD examines the righteous, but the wicked, those who love violence, he hates with a passion.”
God's attitude toward those who "love violence" — those for whom abuse and domination are a pattern of life — is stated with unusual force: he "hates with a passion." This is not mild disapproval. God stands firmly against the person who uses violence against a partner or family member.
Psalm 140:1–2 (NIV)
“Rescue me, LORD, from evildoers; protect me from the violent, who devise evil plans in their hearts and stir up war every day.”
David prays for rescue from people who use violence as a daily weapon. This prayer — prayed by a king who understood both being hunted and being in danger — is a model for anyone living under threat of domestic violence. Praying for rescue is not a failure of faith. It is honest before God.
Proverbs 3:31 (NIV)
“Do not envy a violent man or choose any of his ways.”
Scripture explicitly warns against imitating or admiring those who use violence to get what they want. Staying in a relationship with a violent person, over time, can normalise violence. God says: do not choose those ways.
Isaiah 61:1 (NIV)
“The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, because the LORD has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners.”
Jesus quoted this passage to define his own mission (Luke 4:18). "Release from darkness for the prisoners" and "freedom for the captives" applies to every form of captivity — including a home in which a person is trapped by fear and violence. Jesus came to set the captive free. Leaving an abusive relationship is consistent with, not contrary to, the gospel.
Micah 6:8 (NIV)
“He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”
Acting justly includes acting justly toward yourself. Walking humbly does not mean accepting violent treatment as deserved or God-ordained. Mercy includes extending mercy to yourself — allowing yourself to seek safety, legal protection, and healing.
Romans 13:10 (NIV)
“Love does no harm to a neighbour. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.”
Love, by Paul's definition, does no harm. Violence is not love. Control is not love. Isolation, threats, and degradation are not love. Calling abusive behaviour "love" is a fundamental category error that contradicts the plain meaning of the New Testament.
In South African Law — Your Rights
The Domestic Violence Act 116 of 1998 defines domestic violence broadly — including physical, sexual, emotional, verbal, psychological, economic abuse, intimidation, and harassment. You can apply for a Protection Order at any magistrate's court, free of charge, including weekends for emergency orders. The police are required by law to assist you. Your employer is also prohibited from victimising you for seeking a protection order. Emergency shelter, legal advice, and counselling are available through the GBV Command Centre: 0800 428 428 (available 24 hours, free).
Common Questions
Frequently Asked Questions
Does the Bible say I have to forgive my abuser and stay?
Forgiveness and remaining in a dangerous situation are two separate things. Forgiveness is a spiritual process that frees the forgiver from bitterness — it does not require you to stay in danger or to reconcile with an unrepentant abuser. Jesus forgave from the cross — and he was still crucified. Forgiveness never includes accepting ongoing harm as normal or acceptable.
What if my church does not support me leaving?
Your physical safety and the safety of your children take precedence. Any church that counsels you to remain in a situation of danger is placing institutional concerns above human life. Seek support from trained domestic violence advocates in addition to (or instead of) your church community if necessary.
How do I get a protection order quickly in South Africa?
Go to your nearest magistrate's court and ask for the domestic violence desk. Fill in a form, describe the violence, and the clerk will take it to a magistrate. If there is immediate danger, the magistrate can issue an Interim Protection Order the same day, which is immediately enforceable. You do not need a lawyer and there is no fee.
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